Are you an overwhelmed homemaker who seems to be the only one doing all the housework? Wondering if homemaking is only the job of the wife? If so, then you’re not alone.
In my Facebook group, I get asked this question all the time.
Many stay-at-home moms complain that their spouses don’t help them with any of the housework. They’re overwhelmed and overworked from raising the kids, cooking, cleaning, and doing everything on their own.
Every homemaker wants to know what their role is, and how much contribution their husband’s should be making in the home.
In this post, I will explain what your role as a homemaker should be, and much your spouse should be doing at home
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Is homemaking only the job of the wife?
Homemaking can’t only be the job of the wife. If the wife is doing everything in the home, she will eventually become burned out. So it is important that a husband and wife decide together what their individual duties will be in caring for their family. This will help avoid feelings of resentment and frustration in the future.
What is the wife’s role as a homemaker?
When you decided to take on the role of a homemaker, you made a commitment to your family to take care of everything inside the home.
Your number one job as a homemaker is to raise your children with love. You’re responsible for instilling them with morals, good character, and responsibility. You’re also responsible for monitoring their education.
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This means you have to keep up with their school work, check in with their teacher every week, and attend parent-teacher conferences. You also have to help them with their homework when needed, and take them to their afterschool activities.
Besides taking care of the children, your other role as a homemaker is to take care of the home. You’re responsible for keeping the house clean, doing laundry, dishes, etc.
Other jobs of a homemaker involve cooking, running errands, and managing your family’s budget.
Some stay-at-home moms also do something on the side to earn extra income for the family. Some run an in-home business, while others do freelance work.
One role that most stay-at-home moms tend to forget is that of self-care. It is impossible to do all these things I’ve mentioned above without getting burned out.
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That is why prioritizing self-care is so important.
You need to find things that you can do outside of homemaking that make you happy. Get a hobby and do it every day. Take time for yourself to relax and decompress.
Talk to your husband about your stress and things he can do to help around the house. That’s what will make you happy as a stay-at-home mom and a homemaker.
What is the husband’s role in the home, when his wife is a homemaker?
There is a huge misconception that the husband whose wife is a homemaker doesn’t have to do any housework. That is not true.
Taking care of the place you call home is the job of both people.
The level of work that your husband will do at home, will vary depending on his work schedule and his availability. Don’t expect a husband who works 12-hour shifts every day, to come home and do more work.
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On the other hand, a husband who works from home has a flexible schedule or one who doesn’t work crazy hours should be able to pitch in more at home.
It’s the woman’s responsibility to talk to her husband about her needs and how he can better support her at home.
It can be something as simple as doing the bedtime routine two days a week or taking out the trash every day. Whatever he can do to make the load of housework lighter on her, should be done by him.
Homemaking can’t only be the job of the wife. It takes two people to raise a happy family. If the wife is doing all the work, then they will become resentful toward their husband. If a wife is not happy, then neither will her husband or her children.
Couples should work together to determine where they can help each other in their individual roles.
I hope I’ve helped you understand what your role as a wife is, and how your husband can help you in your job as a homemaker.
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